Elder David A. Bednar
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"To be offended is a choice we make; it is not a condition inflicted or imposed upon us by someone or something else."
Less-active members often blame their lack of church attendance on the premise that someone there offended them in some way. Those that choose to be offended cut themselves off from untold blessings and opportunities.
Latter-day Saints must follow the example of Christ and love their enemies. The Lord has the power to help those who seek Him overcome feelings of hurt or offense.
"If a person says or does something that we consider offensive, our first obligation is to refuse to take offense and then communicate privately, honestly, and directly with that individual."
This approach invites inspiration from the Holy Ghost and will clear up any misconceptions.
Seek out people who have been offended and invite them to come back to church. Prayerfully identify someone to visit and invite them back with love and meekness—not in a spirit of self-righteous superiority and pride.
"As we respond to this invitation with faith in the Savior, I testify and promise the doors will open, our mouths will be filled, the Holy Ghost will bear witness of eternal trust, and the fire of testimony will be rekindled."
