Elder Dallin H. Oaks
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"I strongly urge you and those who advise you to face the reality that for most marriage problems, the remedy is not divorce but repentance. Often the cause is not incompatibility but selfishness. The first step is not separation but reformation. Divorce is not an all-purpose solution, and it often creates long-term headache."
One study found that, on average, persons recover happiness more quickly from the death of a spouse than after divorce.
"Bishops do not counsel members to divorce, but they can help members with the consequences of their decisions."
"Latter-day Saint spouses should do all within their power to preserve their marriages."
"The kind of marriage required for exaltation — eternal in duration and Godlike in quality — does not contemplate divorce."
"There are many good church members who have been divorced. We know that many of you are innocent victims. When a marriage is dead and beyond hope of resuscitation, it is needful to have a means to end it."
"All who have been through divorce know the pain and need the healing power and hope that comes from the Atonement."
"If you are already descending into the low state of marriage-in-name-only, please join hands, kneel together, and prayerfully plead for help."
